Introduction
The concept of Betrothal or “Khitbah” in Islam is a pivotal stage in the journey towards matrimonial unity. Unlike casual engagements, it embodies a formalized array of commitments and expectations that pave the way for a lawful union in Islam.
Comprehensive Definition
Khitbah (خطبة) refers to a formal proposal of marriage in the Islamic tradition. It is an agreement between two individuals (and their families) to marry and marks the official engagement period before the marriage contract (Nikah).
Etymology: Derived from the Arabic root “kha-ta-ba” (خطب), which means “to address” or “to propose.”
Background and Significance
In Islamic culture, Khitbah holds sacred significance because it symbolizes a formal intention towards marriage, which is a revered institution in Islam. It is seen as a period for families to get acquainted and for the prospective couple to know each other within the boundaries set by Islamic legal and ethical standards.
The Qur’an references the importance of various proposals and lawful union. One notable verse is: “And do not tie the knot with pagan women until they believe; a believing bondservant is better than an idolatress, though you may find them very pleasing.” (Qur’an 2:221).
Cultural Differences and Similarities
Islamic societies approach the concept of Khitbah with diverse traditions:
- Arab cultures emphasize familial approval and may involve elaborate betrothal ceremonies.
- South Asian cultures often include the exchange of gifts and jewelry, marking the social and familial alliance.
- Southeast Asian cultures highlight a more communal engagement, sometimes integrating local customs and traditions.
Despite these variations, the underlying essence of Khitbah being a sacred agreement remains consistent across different Islamic communities.
Synonyms, Antonyms, and Related Terms
- Synonyms: Engagement, Islamic Betrothal, Proposal
- Antonyms: Separation, Break-off
- Related Terms:
- Nikah: The formal contract of marriage in Islam.
- Mahr (مهر): The dowry given by the groom to the bride at the time of marriage.
- Walimah (وليمة): The marriage banquet.
Exciting Facts
- Certain traditions in Islamic cultures involve the reading of the Fatiha (the first chapter of the Qur’an) during the Khitbah ceremony to invoke blessings.
- During the Khitbah period, the couple is still expected to maintain modesty and avoid actions reserved for married couples.
Quotations from Notable Writers
“Marriage is part of my sunnah,” said the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him). “Whoever does not follow my practice is not from me.” - (Sunan Ibn Majah, 1845)
References, Suggested Literature, and Further Studies
- Books:
- “Marriage and Morals in Islam” by Sayyid Muhammad Rizvi
- “A Guide to Marriage and Domestic Happiness” by Maulana Ashraf Ali Thanvi
- Articles:
- “The Significance of Khitbah in Modern Islamic Society”
- “Cultural Practices Surrounding Khitbah and Marriage Across the Muslim World”
- Further Studies:
- Courses on Islamic Family Law
- Academic papers on cultural variances in Islamic marital practices
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Farewell, Aisha Rahman Published on 2023-10-03
